Confessions of a Chronic Over-Wordsmith (and What I Finally Said Out Loud)

I used to be the go-to person when someone needed help “getting their message just right.”
Tense email? I’d smooth it out.
Difficult conversation? I’d script it line by line.
Vague idea? I’d turn it into a polished masterpiece.

Wordsmithing was my superpower—and my shield.

It made me valuable at work. Respected. Safe.
But it also made me distant. Aloof. Unavailable.
I spent so much time perfecting how things sounded that I lost touch with how I felt.

Looking back, I can see how much energy I poured into crafting messages that wouldn’t upset anyone. That would keep the peace. That would protect me from judgment or rejection.

And here's the truth:
Wordsmithing wasn’t just a skill. It was a form of control.
If I could control the words, maybe I could control the outcome.
And if I could control the outcome, maybe I could stay safe.

But something shifted when I was told I was being moved into a new role I didn’t want.
Old me would’ve drafted the perfect “thank you, but…”
Instead, I said something wild:
“I don’t want this position.”

That was it. No sugar-coating. No 17 drafts. No softeners.
Just the truth, straight from my heart.

It felt terrifying—and amazing.
Because in that moment, I wasn’t trying to be understood.
I was standing in my truth. Owning my voice. Taking responsibility for my career.

These days, I don’t help women polish their words to perfection.
I help them speak up.
Because clarity doesn’t come from overthinking. It comes from alignment.

And the most powerful thing you can say is the thing that’s already true.

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Speaking up isn’t about getting the words perfect—it’s about getting honest with yourself. When you stop trying to control the outcome and start trusting your voice, everything changes. That’s the work I do now: helping women trade perfection for power, and silence for self-leadership.

If you’re tired of rehearsing your life instead of living it, join me for the Speak Up Challenge—rescheduled and ready for you NOW.

It’s a safe, supportive space to stop overthinking and start owning your truth.

Let’s get your voice back in the room—where it belongs.

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